Today I begin a little experiment in changing bad habits into good habits. But it's not me who is trying to change from bad to good, it's my girls. A little human dynamics so to speak.
I have been watching my girls interact with each other over the years and it is getting to a point as to where I should go or what should I do?
I have a 12year old and a soon to be 8 year old. My oldest is quite mean at the best of the time and doesn't show love of Empathy or feeling for her younger sibling. The younger is getting even more distressed by her sisters lack of attention in all aspects.
Don't get me wrong, sometime they play and communicate beautifully but other times they are at each other and it doesn't stop. Now you might say, 'this sounds normal' but I don't want it to be normal, I want them both to love each other and support one another. I am not asking for Hollywood here but I do wish they would just share each other with each other.
So, how is the situation going to change? I am going to change the momentum and replace a bad habit with a good one or a bad attitude to a good attitude.
I am reading this book at the moment about habits. It talks about replacing a bad habit with a good habit. The books says that when we concentrate on 1 bad habit first like giving up smoking or drinking then all other habits will then follow or we don't focus on those bad habits. Example; if I exercise for 15 minutes a day and that is all I concentrate on, my mind and body are not going to think about the other things like over eating. I will eventually not want to eat the bad stuff because my mind is focused on getting fit and good eating will follow.
This is where my experiment comes in. Every day for 30 days twice a day, when they get up and before they go to bed, my girls have to hug &kiss each other and say, 'I love you, I love being your sister & I love that I am your sister'. I want to help change the way they think of each other by creating a habit within them so it becomes natural to them to know and say they love each other. It is kind of like affirming them and they affirming to each other they love each other.
I also had to show them and lead by example so I said the same thing to them and to my husband and maybe just maybe we will be a closer family and love each other more than before, then the girls will know how much they are loved and how much they have potential to love one another.
I will keep you posted. Fingers crossed I will have to girls who do truly care for one anther.
I have been watching my girls interact with each other over the years and it is getting to a point as to where I should go or what should I do?
I have a 12year old and a soon to be 8 year old. My oldest is quite mean at the best of the time and doesn't show love of Empathy or feeling for her younger sibling. The younger is getting even more distressed by her sisters lack of attention in all aspects.
Don't get me wrong, sometime they play and communicate beautifully but other times they are at each other and it doesn't stop. Now you might say, 'this sounds normal' but I don't want it to be normal, I want them both to love each other and support one another. I am not asking for Hollywood here but I do wish they would just share each other with each other.
So, how is the situation going to change? I am going to change the momentum and replace a bad habit with a good one or a bad attitude to a good attitude.
I am reading this book at the moment about habits. It talks about replacing a bad habit with a good habit. The books says that when we concentrate on 1 bad habit first like giving up smoking or drinking then all other habits will then follow or we don't focus on those bad habits. Example; if I exercise for 15 minutes a day and that is all I concentrate on, my mind and body are not going to think about the other things like over eating. I will eventually not want to eat the bad stuff because my mind is focused on getting fit and good eating will follow.
This is where my experiment comes in. Every day for 30 days twice a day, when they get up and before they go to bed, my girls have to hug &kiss each other and say, 'I love you, I love being your sister & I love that I am your sister'. I want to help change the way they think of each other by creating a habit within them so it becomes natural to them to know and say they love each other. It is kind of like affirming them and they affirming to each other they love each other.
I also had to show them and lead by example so I said the same thing to them and to my husband and maybe just maybe we will be a closer family and love each other more than before, then the girls will know how much they are loved and how much they have potential to love one another.
I will keep you posted. Fingers crossed I will have to girls who do truly care for one anther.
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